So lost but not forgotten some progress has been made after so many struggles.
I'll try to see if I remember how many things have gone wrong or given me trouble.
First this will probably be the last time I use starter soil.
I believe it played a role in the deficiencies I was seeing.
I have started in Stonington before and probably will from here on out.
Next was just getting used to the new humidifier which while set at 60% brought the tent to a consistent 70%.
Not so much a problem first week or two but after that it wreaked havoc and slowed the uptake of nutrients and water, which reduced the amount of nutrients and water I add in my effort to correct.
Then find out after 3-4 weeks that the timer was never shutting down thus running 24/7 the whole time.
Not the worst thing but was just another jab I did not expect.
After correcting the lighting cycle and getting RH to 50% the soil [ Stonington] just seems to be holding on to water with a death grip again reducing the amount of nutrients I could add since the plants did not dry back hardly at all over 7-9 days.
I ordered 3 cubic feet of perlite to mix with the Stonington which I have not done yet.
I got the plants decent [ not great and flipped them to sex out the males.
2 weeks on 12/12 and I had 3 males out of 13 plants. Many of the females were very slow to show but they all did present little pistils, and I do have 10 out 13 plants being female [ that may be the only win of this grow so far].
Lights have been back at 20/4 hoping for a quicker reveg and honestly the bud sites seem to have continued to form still..
Topped the plants after the 12/12 cycle but I see no progression yet on that front.
The plants are still in the tent in 1 gallon hard pots.
When they turn around, I will repot them probably into 5g buckets and get them back to 18/6.
This is the most sideways grow I have ever had so you all didn't miss anything in my lapse of updates.
Good news is I am prepared to move forward in positive way when the time is right and I am as patient as could be about how long this takes.
I may just bring another light bar or 2 into the tent when they get up potted.
So lost like me but not forgotten here is a pic of them.

Three have grown tall [ I would have bet they were male and the space between nodes is greater than I am used to seeing.
Hoping when the topping takes effect that they may bash up a little.
After 2 weeks on 12/12 all I could see was pistils but 1 week later on 20/4 they have actual bud sites. Go figure~!
Not sure how long they will take to reveg but when they are ready I will uppot and update this again.
I want good sized plants not where they are now so we'll just wait them out and hope they and I get better at this little game.
Thanks for looking in.
Grow BIG~!